It is now several days past the 10th anniversary of the tragic events of September 11th. The day was horrific and world changing. What were the changes? On September 12th the world poured out support for the people of the United States. The first call to the president was from Russia. Countries rallied to offer aid. The world came together against injustice. The evil-doers were brought fully to light, exposed for all to see and to judge their actions. Arab nations condemned the attacks. Dictators with power agendas praised them. September 12th was a new dawn. Muslims stood side by side with Christians and indeed people of all faiths to condemn the actions taken by a few fundamentalists. In more ways than not on September 12th, 2001, we united the rational, loving, caring people of the world. It also set those offering fear and destruction on the run. No more would the world stand aside.

Slowly the world is coming together as one. The “Arab summer” is a case in point. The overthrow of dictators who ruled with an iron fist by people wanting to work together to create a new future is a sign of a peaceful future.  As with everything, however, growth comes with growing pains. We are witnessing some, but as each atrocity comes to light the less darkness the world has to offer. We are in a renaissance of humanity. We are stepping into a new future.

September 12th is a day to rejoice. Year after year let us celebrate this bold step of humanity to choose to come together against wrongs and create one giant right.

Tuesday, June 28, 2011 at 9:42AM “No one is immune from addiction; it afflicts people of all ages, races, classes, and professions.” ~Patrick J. Kennedy

What a piece of shit I am.  I wish I could have good relationships. I never make enough money. Life is hard. Every moment is rough. I need a break. Where’s my______?  There it is. There…….. (relaxed sigh). Sound familiar? Does it sound extreme? Are you having this experience on a greater or lesser degree? This is the plight of a person with an addictive behavior. This is the search for relief.

Addiction permeates our society like a plague. It affects not only the addict but family, friends, and society as a whole. People suffer daily and feel helpless, hopeless, and defenseless against it. What is It? What are they truly searching for? It seems to me they are searching for a feeling, something other than the one they are currently feeling. They are looking for a way out of their pain. What is the feeling? What is it they are truly searching for? You can look for it in the psyches of the addicts, but I believe they are searching for the very thing every one of us is searching for:  Love.

Many will scoff at the idea that they are searching for love, dismissing the idea as trite, but the simplest concept is usually the correct one. Love: what is it? More than anything else love is a feeling. It is the feeling we strive for from our earliest years. As children, loving positive parents make us happy. An angered parent makes us sad or scared. We desire love in our lives. When we block love from ourselves, we inhibit ourselves from the very thing we naturally need. In my personal belief system I believe that God/Source is Love and we were given fear as our tool to experience love fully. So we are here to experience our separation from love.

Experiencing our separation happens in many ways. For many, it comes in the form of dysfunctional families. This doesn’t mean the horror story family. In some form we all have some dysfunction in our families, be they large dysfunctions or small. Many times the dysfunction is in extended families and friends. Sometimes it is societal or racial in nature, but no matter where the root lies it feels negative and not positive. Love is the positive state.

There are two kinds of love, conditional and unconditional. In unconditional love, there is never a worry or concern. Love is there no matter what. In a conditional love, you must meet the condition to receive love. Conditions create conditions. Many times we see this in families who reinforce negative behaviors with negative responses which tear the child down, instead of reinforcing positive behaviors and building the child up. The child will always lean towards a positive sensation and pull away from a negative one. When continually bombarded with negative reinforcement, many children fall into depression and fear. The fear becomes a dominant force in their lives and they feel as if they are always in a state of anxiety or suffer from self doubt and self worth issues. They look for a way out.

It doesn’t matter where they discovered the substance or experience or what those things are. It only really matters to the addict how it makes them feel. They are looking for relief. They want to relax from the pain of anxiety and fear. They want love. They find it in a feeling, a positive sensation. They find it in many places. The obvious ones are drugs and alcohol. These are followed closely by smoking, but there are many other ways of getting the feeling they are searching for. Many alcoholics, in finding their way clean, turn to God and become addicted to religion as it makes them feel good. Often people will go into therapy and become addicted to the therapy or the therapist. Each new break-through moment is just the next high. The food addiction has people hiding wrappers and evidence of what they eat from others for fear of not having their love. Sex addicts transpose lust for love and are repeatedly disappointed at the state of their "love life.”  If this sounds like you in any area of your life, there is hope.

Hope comes in the form of unconditional love. The feeling of unconditional love is relaxation and happiness or joy. It is the relief you seek. So rather than using the weighty word of love, let us instead use relaxation. What is relaxation? More than anything else relaxation is a feeling, a positive sensation. It is a respite from the travails of life. Take this moment and breathe deeply. When you exhale allow your body to fully relax your muscles. Do this several times. Go ahead - I’ll wait. Now that you have done that, how did it make you feel? The answer almost invariably is ”good.” So in that moment you felt "good.” Who was it that allowed you to feel that way? Who was it that that also felt that way? In that moment you felt the positive sensation of relaxation. That feeling is also the feeling of love. You at any given moment can sto, take a breath and feel love in the form of relaxation. If you ask smokers why they smoke, the number one answer is, “It relaxes me.” Watch when a smoker smokes or a drinker drinks and you will very quickly notice that right after each draw of nicotine or alcohol they relax their muscles and fully exhale. They are addicted to the feeling. The next time you feel the need for your addiction. Take a breathing break. And feel the positive sensation you are searching for.

Scientific theory says that twenty one days of continual behavior creates habit. Take a "breathing break” for twenty one days and the old habits are kicked. Whenever you feel the anxiety and the fear, take a breathing break. Whenever the world feels oppressive, take a breathing break. There is no one on earth more or less powerful than you. You are the creator of your experience. You can do it. I have belief in you and I look forward to hearing about your success.

“Love comes to those who still hope even though they've been disappointed, to those who still believe even though they've been betrayed, to those who still love even though they've been hurt before.” ~ Unknown

* Click below to download "Eight Steps For Breaking Through the Fear Barrier." It may prove helpful in your journey.

Monday, June 20, 2011 at 9:05AM

“It's important to talk about it. You raise awareness. But you can also prevent it (child abuse) by not letting it be a secret.”~Chris Witty

I am always amazed at the number of victims of sexual abuse that I encounter in my private sessions. Not one day of sessions goes by that does not include a visit with at least one or more sexually abused person. From family members and trusted friends, to strangers and authority figures, the abusers come in all sizes, shapes, and colors. Working with men, I find very large percentages that were molested by their parish priests - more than society has really recognized. It is not uncommon for me to have two or three of them in a day. With women, the leading culprit is a father figure. The effect this has on these people’s lives is devastating, and often creates a lifetime struggle for them.

It is a lifetime struggle, that is, until they go through the process of releasing their personal fears and altering their direction. Forgiveness is what every therapist says must happen. But, before forgiveness can take place, two things must occur-- acknowledgement and understanding.  It is important that there be an acknowledgement that the abuse did happen and that the abused is not at fault.  Once there is acknowledgement--a very personal process that is different for each individual-- there can be an attempt at understanding. Without these two steps, acknowledgement and understanding, it is impossible for the abused to even conceive of forgiveness.

The remainder of this article will delve into the reasons why these types of abuse happen, so that it can help readers break through the barriers they may have lived behind and achieve that understanding. Let us break it down by gender and abuser, starting with the Men and the Parish Priest.

Men and the Parish Priest Priests are an interesting group. Many priests are truly caring, loving individuals that are just doing good work. Many individuals, however, join the priesthood because they feel shame for their very natural sexual desires and use the priesthood as a means for hiding from those feelings, whether straight or gay. Let’s look at their feelings of shame. First of all, many of these men grew up in Catholic families where homosexuality is not okay in the eyes of the “Lord.” When their natural feelings of homosexuality arise, they feel shame for those feelings, and suppress them.  The promise of a devout, celibate life draws suppressed men to the priesthood like moths to a flame. For the gay man, the reality is that their homosexual inclinations are a very natural and normal part of who they are. The problem is that they feel shame for their natural tendencies and build walls around them.

In priests' lives, they have suppressed the physical need for a natural way to receive love, and so, the desires must burst forth because they have halted the natural flow of love in their lives. This can lead to making bad choices. These choices then reinforce their feelings that they are bad people and should be ashamed. They struggle with this shame before, during, and after the horrible acts that are committed against the boys and girls in their charge. This all comes down to the simple fact that they are afraid of not having love, and find ways of justifying their lust as love. The damage this causes the world is farther reaching than most people realize.  I see it all the time, in every city I visit.   Every person on earth just wants to be loved, be they gay or straight, man, woman, or child. Our natural inclinations of sexual love can not truly be suppressed.  There will always be some sort of release. The sexual side of our nature is a representation of who we are and how we express our love. Whether being born homosexual, or choosing homosexuality, love is never wrong.  I take joy in helping as many of the abused as I can.   I help them to find their way past these blockages in their lives, and show them that there is love and it can be safe and unconditional.

Women and Father Figures

The men who are abusive to women are usually the victims of damaging relationships with their own parents. Most of the men I have worked with had parents with addictions of some sort, alcoholism being the foremost. Addictive behaviors are a search for a better feeling, also known as love. The reason they search for love is that their lives are full of negative feelings like loss, abandonment, and self hatred. All too often, this creates a horrible downward spiral from one generation to the next. I frequently am working with men who as children, wanted the unconditional love of their parents. Instead, they received only conditional love and not fully understanding that they were denied what they needed, they fall into addictive behaviors -just like their parents- in a search for the feeling of love.

These men always have low self esteem. Sometimes that same low self esteem manifests in a very large ego. This ego is a power play where they set themselves in a position of power so that they are respected or feared. They view this respect or fear as being loved. This viewpoint then leads to a cycle of behavior that often leads to sexual abuse because the sexual satisfaction they receive -from the bad things they do to innocent children- is reinforced by the positive physical sensations. As addicts they are driven by the need for these feelings, but since they do not fully understand what love is, they are never satisfied and the cycle continues until broken.  The good news is the cycle can be broken.  The feelings of shame and desperation, the self-doubt and suppression of love, do not need to be passed to the next generation.  Each generation has the power to choose.  To break the negative cycle is to choose love.

Choosing Love

I believe that we come into this world to fully experience love (God/Universe).  We do this by developing a healthy relationship between love and fear.  Understand that you are loved at all times. You are not alone in your experience. You do not have to search for the feeling of love.  We cannot know or experience love, without also experiencing its opposite (fear). Love is yours and you can follow your heart.  Love will flow, and love denied will burst forth in self gratification. For the abuser: get help and stop the cycle now. For you, the current victims: tell someone so that people can help. For the people who suffer from past abuses: choose to release the anchors of the past by seeing the abusers as victims themselves and forgiving them. Then choose this to be a new day and love as you want to love. Be the best expression of love you can be. It is who you are. I love you.

“Eventually you will come to understand that love heals everything, and love is all there is.” ~Gary Zukav

*Here is a link to "The Eight Steps for Breaking Through the Fear Barrier." It might prove helpful.

Wednesday, June 1, 2011 at 11:53AM

“You do anything long enough to escape the habit of living until the escape becomes the habit.” ~ David Ryan

I have had the opportunity to work with many people who have suffered with addiction over the years. It is a difficult monkey to have on your back. When you are immersed in addiction, all seems helpless. You become afraid of not having your fix. Many of you know that I believe that our life experience is a dance of Love and Fear. It is through the eradication of fear that we reach the state many call enlightenment. If, as the Bible says,”God is Love,” then we are here to experience our separation from Love so we can know Love/God fully. So the reality is each of us just wants to be loved.

"Life is meant to be a celebration! It shouldn't be necessary to set aside special times to remind us of this fact. Wise is the person who finds a reason to make every day a special one." ~ Leo F. Buscaglia

Addictions are based on several factors. Doctors will tell you it is a chemical response. I believe that our life experience is a product of belief. Those beliefs are based on their relationship to Love and to Fear. Recently while working with someone addicted to smoking, I looked at the time in their life that the smoking started. “Peer pressure,” was the reason given. As we looked deeper into the reason it was very apparent that she wanted the others to like her. So in reality she began smoking because she wanted her peers to love her. If you look at her life before this moment you come to realize that before she started smoking, she already felt unloved. She had been searching for a positive relationship experience and she found that using the tool of smoking.

"Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it." ~ Bill Cosby

Conditional love creates fear and distrust which makes us feel separate and alone. When you ask a smoker why they smoke, the answer usually is “it relaxes me.” That is because when they don’t smoke they are in fear. Smoking, or any other addiction, is just their means of getting the feeling of love. Smoking becomes their spouse. Stopping smoking is like ending a loving relationship. You're afraid you won’t have that feeling anymore. If the smoker is in a relationship, then the best thing their spouse can do is, instead of giving a negative response to the smoking, is take the moment they want to smoke and love them fully. If your relationship is also a sexual one then make love when they feel the need to smoke. Afterwards give them  positive feedback so they feel loved and accomplished.  People smoke after sex due to anxiety. Alleviate the anxiety and you alleviate the need for smoking. Don’t allow love making to become the addiction. Love them unconditionally and in all ways, and then they feel loved and, after time and results, they will set their fear down.

“Just cause you got the monkey off your back doesn't mean the circus has left town.”~ George Carlin

Addiction is a bad lover. Whatever your personal addiction is, realize that it is a relationship. The reason it is a relationship is because it gives you the feeling of love. When ending that relationship you will have all the pangs of a relationship ending. When the addictive relationship ends, remember you are ending it because it was unhealthy and not truly loving.

Friday, March 25, 2011 at 6:42PM

“The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well,” ~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Love: what is it? Is it something we strive for? Is it something that eludes us? Is it something we create? I believe it is what we are made of. I believe that the very fabric of God/Universe is Love. I also believe that we are a part of the fabric. When I had my past life regression my wonderful regressionist asked a simple yet powerful question: “What is the message to get out to the world?” The answer was,” Everything is Love and we are given fear as a tool to experience love fully.”

Our physical life experience is about separation from love. We do this so we may experience the true feelings of love, so we may come to know Love on a deeper level, to understand it. A true unconditional love is our highest desire. We want to be loved for who we are and not have limitations set upon us to be able to achieve love.

“All things appear and disappear because of the concurrence of causes and conditions. Nothing ever exists entirely alone; everything is in relation to everything else.” ~ Buddha

What are conditions? Conditions are limitations set upon something. “If you don’t get good grades, you’re grounded,” is a conditional statement. It tells the person that they will be a victim of an unloving act if they fail. It puts fear into them and creates a condition of having to perform to have the person’s love. It is a condition. But what is the root of the condition itself? Every parent wants their child to succeed. Some parents are lost in their own fears and see the children as representations of themselves. If the child fails it is a reflection on their parenting. If the child fails they are a bad parent. If the child fails then they themselves are not loved in their perception. They are also afraid of not being loved.

“Every human is the architect of their health or disease.” ~Buddha

Conditional love is a root cause of many ailments. Many people find that if they are ill then they get more attention and thus they feel loved. Many find that if the speak their personal truths they are reprimanded for who they are and so they never speak their truth. What I have found in my years of working with people is those that swallow their truth end up with digestive disorders and elimination organ (ie: kidney, liver, bowels, bladder) disorders. Once the people are broken free of the condition then they heal.

“There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.” ~Denis Waitley

I worked with a child once who was paralyzed. When the child was alone in the room with me he stood up. When the parent was in the room he couldn’t. It was discovered that when the child had the accident, a rather aloof parent suddenly became a great parent and very involved in the child’s life. The child stood with me because he knew I would love him if he did. He couldn’t stand with his parents because he felt loved if he couldn’t stand.  

Our simple belief is what creates our experience. As Buddha says,”What you think you become. You create your world.” Our belief in relationship to love is the root of our experience. If a condition is placed to achieve love we will create a condition to receive it. Is your love unconditional? Was the love of the people in your life unconditional? What aspects of your life are not as you wish and what is the condition that has been placed in your way? Remember Love is a positive sensation and fear a negative one. What condition stops you from achieving the positive sensation? I love you as you are …. No conditions.

“More than anything else, I believe it's our decisions, not the conditions of our lives, that determine our destiny.” ~Anthony Robbins

Friday, November 19, 2010 at 4:55PM

“Ability is what you're capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.” ~Lou Holtz

I am always speaking of the power of words. I am a true believer that your words are a product of belief.  I also believe that all creation/healing must be done in the present moment:  the I AM moment. When we use words like “want”, “need”,” hope”, or “try” we are actually creating nothing in our present moment. These words are a product of the belief that you are not doing it now. I watch as people shift their faith to the present moment and miracles happen in their lives.

I recently was working with a really cool guy who is having some difficulties in his life. He has found himself in a state where his legs aren’t working. He can move his toes but his legs do not work. I got down on the floor in front of him and began the process of assessment. I was assessing where his belief was allowing him to go. As I said, he can move his toes. I asked him how he was able to do that - he said "I just do it." I told him that is the faith he must have in all of what he is creating.

“The outer conditions of a person's life will always be found to reflect their inner beliefs” ~ James Allen

I placed my hands on either side of his knees and asked him to move his legs. I watched as he struggled to move them. I then asked him to relax and say, ”I AM moving my legs,” as he did. His legs began in the slightest way to move, first one then the other then both. You could see the quadriceps muscle flexing as he did it.  We talked, discussing what he had just done, and I then said, “Try and do it again.” He struggled to move them but the muscles didn’t fire. Again I said,” I AM moving my legs,” which he repeated. The muscles fired and the legs slightly moved.

He has found where his faith is as he begins his wonderful recovery. He is now declaring, “I am growing stronger every day." As long as he holds his belief that he is and reinforces it with his words then he will one day soon dance, even though he says he never did.

“Men often become what they believe themselves to be. If I believe I cannot do something, it makes me incapable of doing it. But when I believe I can, then I acquire the ability to do it even if I didn't have it in the beginning.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

Monday, September 13, 2010 at 6:01PM

"Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want, but the realization of how much you already have." ~unknown

I am blessed to witness many amazing things in my life. Each of these amazing events is the result of someone taking control of their own life and finding the power within. Many people would say that it is themselves creating. It is my belief that it is a co-creating with a larger power. We ask for many things in our lives and when they come into our experience we can miss their arrival. When we miss the arrival our belief then begins a new co-creation. To give an example of this I would like to share a couple of stories. I am changing the names as to not break a confidence but each of these stories give an interesting lesson.

Sally was a woman with a dream. Of Puerto Rican decent, her desire was to live in Puerto Rico with a soul mate. She could not see how that would happen and came to me for a healing session. We worked through her limiting beliefs and brought her to the present moment creation. A year went by and I hadn’t heard from Sally. Then another appointment was set. We came together for the session and Sally was depressed. Things didn’t seem to be working out. She was lonely. I asked her to tell me about her year.

She told me about how she had been working and doing some traveling and she didn’t see a way out of her hopeless situation. I asked her to remind me of what we had asked for the year before. She reminded me about asking for the soul-mate in Puerto Rico. “So how’d that go?” I asked. “Well I ended up going on an internet dating site and met a guy. I don’t know how he got through my settings but he lives in Mexico.” She answered.  In her mind she couldn’t see how it would ever work. I asked her to describe the man. “Well he’s Puerto Rican and eventually would like to move back there but some things are keeping him in Mexico.”

“All truths are easy to understand once they are discovered; the point is to discover them.” ~Galileo Galilei

As our conversation progressed it came out that his elderly parents were in bad health and that he was helping them through their final days. It also came out that she and he had declared that they never felt more comfortable with anyone else and that she felt he was her soul mate. She couldn’t recognize the miracle in motion because it didn’t come in the form she had expected. When asked what a soul mate was, Sally responded, "Someone who will grow in love with me, and our lives just keep getting better and better, and who I can nurture.” The Universe/ God brought Sally a man who was losing the most nurturing people in his life, who wanted to live in Puerto Rico, and who felt closer to her than anyone else.

Candace was in dire straits. She was about to become homeless, her finances had fallen away and she saw no way out. She scheduled an appointment. We sat on the phone and discussed her predicament. Working through her beliefs, we created a new present moment belief and the session came to an end. A few weeks later Candace upgraded to life coaching sessions with me. On the second session she told me about finding a house and a means of funding the rent the day before becoming homeless. She still seems discouraged though. It wasn’t the house she wanted or the financial success she focused on. It was a miracle in motion. This house gave her the stability she needed at that present moment to bring her miracle into reality. But if we don’t recognize the miracle, then we begin to focus on negative aspects and that is what begins to be created around us.

Look for the small things in your reality that lead to your dreams. they are how the miracle comes.

"The voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes." ~Marcel Proust

Saturday, May 22, 2010 at 10:07PM

“Words represent your intellect. The sound, gesture and movement represent your feelings.” ~Patricia Fripp

I just got back from Sandusky Ohio, where I spoke Friday night and did private healing sessions on Saturday. It was a great time and I had the opportunity to meet and work with some wonderful people. Afterwards my assistant Holly and I went to the home of a couple who came for the speech, but had a special request. They asked if we could stop by their home and work on a partially paralyzed horse named Momma. She is a lovely horse with a wonderful disposition.

I climbed into the stall and began work. I began feeling my way around Momma’s neck and found what I would call an energetic hot spot. I placed my hand upon it and began opening to source to allow the source of all to do the work. Momma immediately raised her head and twisted it hard to one side. She then gently pressed into me and stayed relaxed. Holly and I continued to work on her for some time and at Holly’s suggestion, so did the owner. We just allowed the energy to flow and asked for the healing. All at once the energy stopped. All three of us felt it at once, and we knew we were done.

“A kindly gesture bestowed by us on an animal arouses prodigies of understanding and gratitude” ~Sidonie Gabrielle

This animal could have easily crushed any of us, but the simple gesture of gently pressing into me was beautiful. Afterwards, she leaned down, smelled my leg, and then kissed her owners hand. It was a series of simple gestures that made our day. First a lean, then a smell, and then a kiss that gave us the sign we did good service. I would love to say that Momma’s paralysis was immediately cured. It wasn’t, but may be over time. A spot of discomfort was found and worked on.  Maybe that was the problem or maybe it wasn’t, but the simple gesture said it was all good.

I got home and discovered a little card in my mail. It was from my love Kelly, who is away in Georgia. I opened it and read how she appreciated our love and relationship. She also said she loved and missed me. Kelly and I speak every day several times. We are always in communication. But she also made the simple gesture that said it was all good. What simple gesture can you give to the ones who matter? It means far more than you can imagine. I was gifted today with a few simple gestures; each meant a great deal, and I am forever grateful to be the recipient.

“Grace was in all her steps, Heav'n in her Eye, In every gesture dignity and love.” ~John Milton

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Monday, May 17, 2010 at 11:43PM

“Anger is never without an argument, but seldom with a good one.” ~Indira Gandhi

When someone finds themselves in a confrontational relationship, the first reaction is to meet that other person with like or stronger negative energy. The volume increases and they find themselves having an ever more frustrating experience. They can’t see a way out or around it and they begin to contemplate leaving the relationship. Sometimes people even walk away from parents or siblings in that mix. Many times that is the only option because the other person has free will as well. This being said however, the majority of the time the relationships can be completely rescued and in fact be better than they ever were.

Most people have a hard time understanding the other person’s point of view until the playing ground is leveled. How do we level the playing ground, you might ask? The best thing a person can do is step back, take a breath and try to see from the other person’s perspective. If you don’t agree with it that is OK - people disagree every day. The reaction is not because of the disagreement. The reaction comes from a very different place. When an aggressive or argumentative response arises, it is a direct response to a perceived ego assault. The ego is an interesting aspect of the human animal. The ego always wants to be right and on top. The main reason for this is the desire for respect. Respect - what is it? It is the desire to be loved. And so the vehement response is not the disagreement, it is actually the fear of not being loved (respected).  

“He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

When a response of this nature confronts you the worst thing you could do is feed it the same vehement response. That would cause an escalation and in fact only exaggerate matters. Instead think of this solution:  If love is the thing they are afraid of not having, then give them love at that very precise moment. I had a woman come to me because she was at wit’s end with her mother. It seemed that every time they got together they butted heads aggressively. I told her that when this happened turn to her mother and say, “Mom, no matter what you do or say I will always love you.” Her response to me was that she didn’t think she could say that because she didn’t feel that. So I gave her permission to say the words, do the deed and NOT think it, until her mother gave her a reason to think it.

I didn’t see the woman for quite some time, when I bumped into her at an spiritual expo. She was smiling and so happy to see me. “You saved my relationship with my mother, “she said. She continued telling me that she did as I suggested and said the words, did the deed, and was prepared not to think it. Her mother threw a wrench in the works though. She burst into tears immediately and told her daughter she loved her too. Since then they have had a great relationship.

Everyone wants to be loved. It is why we are here. I believe that love is the purest essence of our Source/God and we are all here to experience our separation so we can come to know God /Universe fully. So, on some level, everyone wants to be loved, because God is Love. When you negate the fear of not having love by giving love instead of fear, you defuse the situation and a new loving situation has the opportunity to take root. You have the power to alter any relationship just by keeping that simple fact in mind. They just want to be loved.

“The key to change... is to let go of fear.” ~Rosanne Cash

Tuesday, May 4, 2010 at 8:31PM

“I find hope in the darkest of days, and focus in the brightest. I do not judge the universe.” Dalai Lama

I used to love watching Odd Couple reruns. The dichotomy of the neat freak and  the slob was comedy gold. There was one episode where Felix had decided he could write a song and found inspiration in a sports column Oscar was writing, drawing upon the words he was using to describe a violent boxing match between “Berstien and Luftz”. Soon the names became, “Bursting with Love.” They continued on, all the while Felix finding the positive in each sentence. When Oscar proclaimed his next line to be, ”Blood spurted from both nostrils at the sound of the bell,” Felix responded, “I can use the Bell!”

“The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire not things we fear.” Brian Tracy

Our world is a mish-mash of various experiences. It falls upon us to see the positive in each. By focusing on the violent or negative aspects, we are truly perpetuating those in our reality. I find that when we look at our surroundings as disappointment, we find more in which to be disappointed. In the Odd Couple, Felix was looking for positive lyrics and because he was focused on finding positive he did. The result of his focus was a complete song. Was it Grammy material? It probably wasn’t. But his focus was on creating a positive song.

In truth our lives are like music. Disharmony and Harmony are a choice. Live within the wonderful music of self. Self is the music of your choosing and the music of your soul, and when those two come together you will live the life of your dreams.

“Our thoughts create our reality - where we put our focus is the direction we tend to go.” Peter McWilliams